tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7116725405154613998.post3267806494901768561..comments2023-05-04T06:30:59.672-04:00Comments on Book Buddies: Conversation #5 ~ When have I experienced good listening? (pp. 90-97)Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7116725405154613998.post-41092086569308292242013-09-11T07:05:01.009-04:002013-09-11T07:05:01.009-04:00The best kind of listening is that which does not ...The best kind of listening is that which does not interrupt or "advise." I think a hand held or kept eye contact is the most healing. I have been known to hug my 1st- or onetime- customers when they have sad stories to tell. I always ask them if I can pray for their situation; I've never been refused.<br /><br />I find that silence usually let's me know when I have said too much, and when I have put too much of my story in the "conversation." AuntyDonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15691008873536050790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7116725405154613998.post-56564241715443884742013-08-23T20:13:11.287-04:002013-08-23T20:13:11.287-04:00That is good that you were able to find good liste...That is good that you were able to find good listeners, Mary, when you needed them. Too many people when they "mean well" offer "comfort" that isn't. One that I remember assured me that I do have two other children. I do, but I wanted to keep all three of my children. <br /><br />I have probably been just as guilty of trying to comfort rather than providing the needed ear, but I do try to let the grief-stricken person share their feelings.<br />Shirleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10155188609487120887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7116725405154613998.post-58047871527429975052013-08-23T12:33:32.438-04:002013-08-23T12:33:32.438-04:00Wonderful introductory stories, Bonnie!
I experie...Wonderful introductory stories, Bonnie!<br /><br />I experienced good listen by friends who helped me heal after my son was killed in a car wreck in 1984. I don't remember who all listened. But I do remember that I needed listeners who did not offer anything but listening. No platitudes, no spoken sympathy, no advise, just listening.Zorrohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00227456296100012961noreply@blogger.com