- "In what way does one person become a friend of another?" — Socrates (p. 90)
- "What are friends for?" (p. 102).
- "Their friends fill some need ... they are in some sense useful." (p. 102).
- "What is a good friendship?" (p. 103).
- "What constitutes a failed friendship?" (p. 103).
- "Is there such a thing as a destructive friendship?" (p. 103).
- "How are friendships formed?" (p. 103).
- "How are friendships different from other types of relationships?" (p. 103).
- "How are friendships formed and how are they broken?" (p. 103).
- "Can a book be your friend?" (p. 103).
- "Goethe said that friends 'enhance each other' ... To me, a friend is someone who accepts you when you're at your very worst, but inspires you to be a better person.." (p. 103).
"You can't be silent to yourself, even if you are silent to everyone else. I may not talk out loud, but I still talk to myself. I still have conversations with myself inside my head, even if no one else can hear me. I can't turn off the voices in my head" (p. 115).
"What precisely can I do to realize my dreams? What steps do I have to take? What sacrifices will I have to make? Am I willing to make them?" (p. 131).Let's end this list with love, okay? The young woman there with him, apparently just the two of them that day, shared her definition of love.
"Love is a response. Love is something to be expressed, to be demonstrated, and it leads to this sublime place that is within us but also transcends us. But this place is very, very hard to reach" (p. 139).And then a grin spread across my face as I read the last sentence of this chapter, after the author considered asking her, "How do you know when you're in love?" (p. 141). But he didn't ask. Not then. He wrote:
"I wait until nearly two years later, after we're already married" (p. 141).
"Understanding human needs is half the job of meeting them."
— Adlai Stevenson (quoted on page 89)