Thursday, October 3, 2013

It's October ~ What are you reading?

We've finished Turning to One Another by Meg Wheatley, so what are you reading (or contemplating reading) now?

BONNIE

Here are the books on my plate.  The first one is by a woman living in a small town about 30 miles from me.  Mary Zorro read it, and we agreed to talk about it.  Shirley has also read it, and Alison would love to read it (see comments below).

Evolving in Monkey Town: How a Girl Who Knew All the Answers Learned to Ask the Questions ~ by Rachel Held Evans, 2010, memoir
"Monkey Town" is Dayton, Tennessee, where Rachel lives.  From the back cover:  "Eighty years after the Scopes Monkey Trial made a spectacle of Christian fundamentalism and brought national attention to her hometown, Rachel Held Evans faced a trial of her own when she began to have doubts about her faith."
The Dalai Lama's Cat ~ by David Michie, 2012, fiction
I gave this one to my roommate for her birthday.  From the back cover:  "Starving and pitiful, a mud-smeared kitten is rescued from the slums of New Delhi and transported to a life she could never have imagined.  In a beautiful sanctuary overlooking the snow-capped Himalayas, she begins her new life as the Dalai Lama's cat."
Zealot: The Life and Times of Jesus of Nazareth ~ by Reza Aslan, 2013, biography
My Sunday school class has decided to study this book, starting soon.  Donna is also reading it.  From the dust jacket:  "Aslan explores the reasons why the early Christian church preferred to promulgate an image of Jesus as a peaceful spiritual teacher rather than a politically conscious revolutionary. And he grapples with the riddle of how Jesus understood himself, the mystery that is at the heart of all subsequent claims about his divinity."
SHIRLEY

The Spymistress ~ by Jennifer Chiaverini, 2013, historical fiction
This historical novel is set during the Civil War era, inspired by the life of “a true Union woman as true as steel” who risked everything by caring for Union prisoners of war — and stealing Confederate secrets.  Born to slave-holding aristocracy in Richmond, Virginia, and educated by Northern Quakers, Elizabeth Van Lew was a paradox of her time.  When her native state seceded in April 1861, Van Lew’s convictions compelled her to defy the new Confederate regime.  Pledging her loyalty to the Lincoln White House, her courage would never waver, even as her wartime actions threatened not only her reputation, but also her life.
FDR's Funeral Train: A Betrayed Widow, a Soviet Spy, and a Presidency in the Balance ~ by Robert Klara, 2010, history
The true story of the wartime train that took one dead president, one live one, and 140 of the most influential men of Washington on an adventure that has been shrouded in mystery — until now.  The April 1945 journey of President Franklin D. Roosevelt’s funeral train became a thousand-mile odyssey fraught with heartbreak and scandal, with shady deals and the shadier men behind them.  As it slipped through the night, chuffing its way from Warm Springs, Georgia, to Hyde Park, New York, few of the grieving onlookers at the trackside gave thought to what might be happening behind the Pullman shades, where women whispered and men tossed back highballs.
ALLISON

Code Name Verity ~ by Elizabeth Wein, 2012, YA fiction
Oct. 11th, 1943 — A British spy plane crashes in Nazi-occupied France.  Its pilot and passenger are best friends.  One of the girls has a chance at survival.  The other has lost the game before it's barely begun.  When "Verity" is arrested by the Gestapo, she's sure she doesn't stand a chance.  As a secret agent captured in enemy territory, she's living a spy's worst nightmare.  Her Nazi interrogators give her a simple choice: reveal her mission or face a grisly execution.  This Michael L. Printz Award Honor book shows just how far true friends will go to save each other.
DONNA

The Enoch Factor: The Sacred Art of Knowing God ~ by Steve McSwain, 2010, spirituality
The book "has been described as a candid memoir on how misdirected religion can become.  It calls for an end to religious dogmatism and fundamentalism and the consequential crisis of faith that is driving millions to question lifelong beliefs, change religions, or abandon faith altogether."  It is a persuasive argument for a more enlightened religious dialogue in America.  The book bridges the gap between secular and Christian book titles on spirituality, setting a new standard in both.
Simple Dreams: A Musical Memoir ~ by Linda Ronstadt, 2013, memoir
Tracing the timeline of her remarkable life, Linda Ronstadt, whose forty-five year career has encompassed a wide array of musical styles, weaves together a captivating story of her origins in Tucson, Arizona, and her rise to stardom in the Southern California music scene of the 1960s and ’70s.  she helped define the musical style that dominated American music in the 1970s.
MARY ZORRO

The Last Report on the Miracles at Little No Horse ~ by Louise Erdrich, 2001, fiction (North Dakota)
This is the story of Father Damien Modeste, priest to his beloved people, the Ojibwe.  Modeste, nearing the end of his life, dreads the discovery of his physical identity — for he is a woman who has lived as a man.  For more than a half century, Father Damien Modeste has served his beloved people, the Ojibwe, on the remote reservation of Little No Horse.  To complicate his fears, his quiet life changes when a troubled colleague comes to the reservation to investigate the life of the perplexing, difficult, possibly false saint Sister Leopolda.  Father Damien alone knows the strange truth of Sister Leopolda's piety and is faced with the most difficult decision of his life:  Should he reveal all he knows and risk everything?  Or should he manufacture a protective history though he believes Leopolda's wonder-working is motivated by evil?
Knocking on Heaven's Door: The Path to a Better Way of Death ~ by Katy Butler, 2013, memoir
Katy Butler's parents wanted “Good Deaths,” but forces within medicine stood in the way.  Butler was living thousands of miles from her vigorous and self-reliant parents when the call came:  a crippling stroke had left her proud seventy-nine-year-old father unable to fasten a belt or complete a sentence.  Tragedy at first drew the family closer:  her mother devoted herself to caregiving, and Butler joined the twenty-four million Americans helping shepherd parents through their final declines.   Then doctors outfitted her father with a pacemaker, keeping his heart going but doing nothing to prevent his six-year slide into dementia, near-blindness, and misery.  When he told his exhausted wife, “I’m living too long,” mother and daughter were forced to confront a series of wrenching moral questions.
  • When does death stop being a curse and become a blessing?
  • Where is the line between saving a life and prolonging a dying?
  • When do you say to a doctor, “Let my loved one go?”
When doctors refused to disable the pacemaker, condemning her father to a prolonged and agonizing death, Butler set out to understand why.  Her quest had barely begun when her mother took another path.  Faced with her own grave illness, she rebelled against her doctors, refused open-heart surgery, and met death head-on.   With a reporter’s skill and a daughter’s love, Butler explores what happens when our terror of death collides with the technological imperatives of medicine.  Her provocative thesis is that modern medicine, in its pursuit of maximum longevity, often creates more suffering than it prevents.   This revolutionary blend of memoir and investigative reporting lays bare the tangled web of technology, medicine, and commerce that dying has become.  And it chronicles the rise of Slow Medicine, a new movement trying to reclaim the “Good Deaths” our ancestors prized.  This book is a map through the labyrinth of a broken medical system.  It will inspire the difficult conversations we need to have with loved ones as it illuminates the path to a better way of death.
YOU
Tell us in the comments what's on your reading plate right now.

Tuesday, September 17, 2013

Conversation #12 ~ Can I be fearless? (pp. 150-159)

"What's important is to notice what we do with our fear. ... Fearlessness simply means that we do not give fear the power to silence or stop us."
That's from page 152 of Turning to One Another by Meg Wheatley.  Here are a question to think about:
"What might I need to walk out of?" (p. 154).
And here's a picture of the "Orange Revolution" of 2004, when the Ukrainian people protested a fraudulent election (p. 155).

How would you answer her question?
"Can I be fearless?"

Monday, September 16, 2013

Conversation #11 ~ What is our role in creating change? (pp. 142-149)

Wangari Maathai  called herself an "accidental activist" (p. 147).  I read her book — Unbowed: A Memoir — shortly after it was published in 2006, a few months before I started blogging.  The story of her life was so compelling that I still remember details from the book, which I rated a 9 of 10.  In the summer of 2011, I read a beautiful children's book about her called Seeds of Change: Planting a Path to Peace by Jen Cullerton Johnson.  When I learned Wangari Maathai had died (September 25, 2011), I felt it as a personal loss, maybe because she was born the same month I was born, in April 1940.  I wrote about these two books on my Bonnie's Books blog.  It's interesting that today's question is about creating change, and the children's book about Wangari Maathai is entitled Seeds of Change.

My book club on Facebook, made up mostly of clergywomen, read Margaret Wheatley's Turning to One Another a couple of months ago.  Here's an exchange between Barbara and me on this very section of the book:
Barbara:  "Part III, #11, (pp. 146-7):  What is our role in creating change? — I appreciated being reminded of Wangari Maathai's courageous work to plant trees in Kenya:  The Green Belt Project.  I'm sad to know Dr. Maathai died several years ago, yet her legacy continues to help humans and the earth.  I'm wondering whether anyone out there sometimes feels inadequate — or your work feels inadequate — when learning about stories such as Dr. Maathai's.  Every contribution counts and makes a difference, but do you ever wonder whether your/our work is effective?"

Bonnie:  "Barbara, to answer your question, yes, I feel inadequate, wondering if I'm really doing anything meaningful.  I haven't done anything that inspired women to plant millions of trees in Kenya, as Wangari Maathai did.  But in both of the classes I taught on Sunday, we talked about Luke 13:20-21, which says:  'To what should I compare the kingdom of God?  It is like yeast that a woman took and mixed in with three measures of flour until all of it was leavened.'  Yeast, or leaven, works slowly but steadily.  What I say or do today may seem insignificant to me, but it could make a difference to someone someday that I can't even imagine.  For example, Shirley saw that I mentioned here on Facebook that 'my online book club' was reading Meg Wheatley's book.  Since she's in my online Book Buddies discussion group, she asked if that's our next book for discussion.  Now it is, because she and I decided to do it.  Donna is reading the book, too, and will join that discussion.  That's a mere three of us in that discussion, and (so far) only three here:  Judith, you, and me.  But look at the world map at the bottom of the Book Buddies blog.  Few of us are still talking about books, though there were several of us a few years ago.  But look at the map — [NOTE:  I'm updating the data] — people from 5637 places have read the Book Buddies blog in the last 2-1/2 years, or if you click on the map, you'll see that it's been viewed 42,801 times in that same period of time."
And our Book Buddies group has grown beyond the original three for this discussion.  I'm still hoping Barbara will join us here.  So let's answer Meg Wheatley's question:
What is our role in creating change?

Friday, September 13, 2013

Conversation #10 ~ When do I experience sacred? (pp. 134-141)


When I googled "sacred" to find an image for this post, this stained glass window came up among other pictures of cartoon characters with swords, that seem to be part of the gaming world.  It was in the 13th line of images, which may be important on this Friday the 13th.  (Or maybe not.)  You can see it more clearly if you click on the image to enlarge it.  Anyway, in Turning to One Another, Meg Wheatley says:
"Sacred is not a special place, or a ritual, or a particular group of people.  It's more normal than that. ... the ritual isn't sacred, it just opens the door to the experience. ... sacred is available in our day-to-day lives" (p. 136).
It's all about being connected.  She asks the question at least three different ways.  How would you answer?
How would you describe sacred?
How would you describe the feeling of sacred?
When do I (you) experience sacred?

Sunday, September 1, 2013

Conversation #9 ~ When have I experienced working for the common good? (pp. 126-133)

Think of "any experience where you worked for others rather than yourself" (p. 129).  Meg Wheatley asks these questions.  Choose one or two — or just tell us about the experience.
  • How well do you remember that experience?
  • Do you remember the purpose of the work?
  • How often did your efforts teeter on the brink of failure?
  • How many times were you surprised by someone's ingenuity, or your own?
  • And now, long after it's over, how do you feel about those with whom you shared this experience?
This weekend, I read about a brave soldier and learned this:
"What motivates soldiers in combat is not hatred of their enemy, but love for their comrades."
Wheatley said a lot in this part of Turning to One Another.
  • "When we work for the common good, we experience each other in new ways. ... We focus on the work, not on each other" (p. 130).
  • "[W]hen we serve others, we gain more than hope.  We gain energy" (p. 131).
How would you answer her question:  "When have I experienced working for the common good?"

Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Conversation #8 ~ What is my unique contribution to the whole? (pp. 116-125)

On page 121 of Turning to One Another, Margaret Wheatley says:
"I'm sure you've had the experience of stereotyping someone because of their appearance, and then being surprised when they didn't fit that judgment."
Oh, yeah!  We moved into a new house on the day before my twin daughters started kindergarten, so I didn't know the other children or their parents.  When the first little girl visited our house one afternoon, I told her mom I'd take her home.  She was an awkward child — and very excited about her new bed that she wanted to show us.  I drove to her neighborhood, following the directions her mother had given me, and let the little girl point out which house was hers as reached the corner of her street.  Expecting a small bungalow, I smiled as I glanced where she was pointing.  Taken aback, I looked again — up and up and up — one, two, three floors high, with a curved drive at the front entrance, branching off to ... was that servants' quarters back there?  A maid answered the door, and the girl's gracious mother encouraged us to go up the curved stairs in the entry, so the excited girl could show us her new canopy bed.  The whole kindergarten class with parents was later invited to visit the family's horse farm an hour's drive into the country.  Oh, how very wrong my stereotype had been!

What stereotypes have we been guilty of?  Do you stereotype people by nationality?  By looks?  By how they dress?  By age?  By gender?  By race?  By occupation?  How do you stereotype teachers?  Grading papers was always my least favorite chore!  Why must we label each other, anyway?

Click to enlarge and see their signs
So how do you answer Meg Wheatley's question, "What is my unique contribution to the whole?"

Sunday, August 25, 2013

Conversation #7 ~ What is the relationship I want with the earth? (pp. 106-115)

From garbage trucks to landfills to mountains of trash to a sea of garbage, also called marine pollution.  "When will we ever learn?  When will we EVER learn?"

Enlarge this landfill mountain (click on photo) and see the yellow Komatsu excavators.  Those were manufactured across the street from where Donna works, and we may have seen them sitting on the lot, ready to be transported — where? — to try to control a landfill.  Notice the "tiny" humans crawling all over this "mountain."

This picture was taken from the Great Pacific Garbage Patch website:
http://greatpacificgarbagepatch.info/
Visit the GPGP site for more information about this horrible mess.
Garbage is the result of our lifestyle.  We glorify competition — Super Bowl, anyone?  Therefore, we are in a time that many scientists refer to as "the sixth great extinction" (p. 108).  We're arrogant (Bonnie's term, not Meg Wheatley's).
"Instead of honoring nature's principle of no waste, (one species' waste is always another species' food), we decided we could accumulate huge amounts of garbage" (p. 109).
If some can see that cooperation is what life's all about, why do other insist on competition?
"Life becomes stronger and more capable through systems of collaboration and partnering, not through competition" (p. 110).

"Life ... is pushing back forcefully right now ... dramatic and frightening climate changes all around the globe, destructive floods, more deserts and barren soil, new diseases and pandemics" (p. 112).
And what do we continue to do in our relationship with the earth?  We are still "trying to play god with it" (p. 113).
Where have all the flowers gone, long time passing?
Where have all the flowers gone, long time ago?
Where have all the flowers gone?
Young girls have picked them everyone.
Oh, when will they ever learn?
Oh, when will they ever learn?
Words and Music by Pete Seeger (1955)
(c) 1961 (renewed) by Sanga Music Inc.
How do you answer Meg Wheatley's question in this chapter of Turning to One Another:  "What is the relationship I want with the earth?"